It's not a matter of having a bad or good attitude. It is an attitude that comes from a core belief that that we are the captains of our own ships. It is a belief that our thoughts control our feelings and that we are in control of our thoughts. We can steer the ship by believing that all can change and will based on our own reactions and attitudes.
If we do the work to understand what's driving our thoughts, then we can change them. Attitude, is more important than facts. It is more important than the past, education, money, circumstances, failures, successes, or what other people think, say or do. It is more important than appearance, or skill. It will make or break a company. The remarkable thing is we have a choice every day regarding the attitude we will embrace for that day. We cannot change our past, we cannot change the fact that people will act in a certain way. We cannot change some of life's events. The only thing we can do is be responsible for how we react, how we greet the day and how we affect everybody around us.
In this culture of overwhelm, demand and possibilities, one of the most important aspects of building success is our attitude. When there is so much we do not have control of, attitude is something we can control. Controlling our attitude converts the present to the future. One of the greatest ways to change your behavior or responses is to change your attitude. To change your attitude, you must separate the stimulus from the response. We have the ability to choose our response to any situation. There is a space, a bit brief, in which we may choose how to react in every situation. Often we allow our subconscious to make decisions, which is why we feel so out of control. We can take back control. It is not what happens to you that counts, it is how you react to what happens to you, especially when you have unexpected problems of any kind. If you think nothing can change, then you're are right, nothing will change, but by taking control of your attitude you open the door to all things possible!
As as result of changing this attorney's attitude and committing to a few strategic business development steps, he was able to retain a few new clients and turn things around in his business very quickly.
Here are four strategies to keep your-self thinking and acting positively:
Decide to Be Positive Believe that a Positive Mental Attitude is indispensable to you professionally, personally and physically. Having an 'I can do this' or 'I can handle this' attitude changes everything. You can be as positive as you want to be if you will simply think about the outcome you are looking for, and focus on the solution. Become aware every time a negative thought appears and turn it around! Use your mental control to turn the negative thoughts to positive.
Look for the Learning Although sometimes painful, practice assuming that whatever situation you are facing at the moment is exactly the right situation you need to ultimately be successful. This situation has been sent to you to help you learn something, to help you become better, to help you expand and grow.
Look For the Good Always look for something good. Develop the belief that good is hidden within each difficulty or challenge. Everyday situations will happen, sometimes bigger than others. Practice looking for the good. If you look for it, and assume it is there, you will always find it.
Think about the Solution Whenever you are faced with a difficulty, focus on the solution rather than on the problem. Think and talk about where you are, where you want to be, what the obstacles are and create the solutions! Rather than wasting time rehashing and reflecting on the problem, move to the solutions. Solutions are inherently positive, whereas problems are inherently negative. The instant that you begin thinking in terms of solutions, you start to see thing change.
How does negative thinking get in your way? What strategies do you use to stay positive?